. Nothing draws the battle lines quicker than the debate over
"spanking." Some say that we are to use corporal punishment to shape our
children into respectful, law-abiding, god-fearing adults. . (Sandy
Cummins) On the flipside of this debate are those, like Erin Kinloch, who
just as persuasively argue that as parents it sets a bad example - you are
teaching your child to express their anger with violence.
. So where does the truth lie? . Is spanking the Biblically approved
right that ends all wrongs? . Is it a root cause for the violence in this
world? . In an effort to truly understand spanking, its advantages as well
as its disadvantages, the Christian parent will be wise in consulting
Scripture to its fullest!
. Proverbs 23:13,14 "Don't fail to correct your children. .
They won't die if you spank them. . Physical discipline may well save them
from death."
. Little Tom, Dick, or Harry pulls on Fluffy's tail, and the cat will
promptly reply by scratching the offending hand. . Dick or Jane think its
fun to jump off the swing, and promptly end up with two bloody knees. .
Odds are, the kids will no longer pull the cat's tail or jump off the
swing. . They learned a valuable lesson because of the pain inflicted as a
consequence of their actions. . In a similar vein, a proper spanking
administered at the signs of willful disrespect against parental authority
represents a consequence that will aid the child in respecting her/his
boundaries.
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. This act of parental discipline will cure little Harry of rolling his
eyes at dad, who is admonishing him not to cross the street. . It will
prevent teenaged Harry from "making out" with his prom date in the back of
the VW, because he remembers the admonition of his dad, whose leadership
he has grown up to respect and obey. . Yet, how does one spank properly?
. Never, ever spank in anger. . If you feel like you're about ready to
lose it, step back! . Spanking in anger will do nothing to teach the
child, but instead it creates a sense of dread in her/him that has nothing
to do with training.
. Never, ever slap her/him in the face. . What some call
euphemistically a "slip of the hand" is actually a form of child abuse and
has no place in a Christian household.
. Never, ever shake your infant. . Infants are not candidates for
spankings or similar modes of discipline. . Shaking an infant may actually
kill her/him. . A child under the age of 15 months should never be
disciplined by a spanking.
. Never, ever pull on your child's arm, or jerk her/his shoulder. .
Nowhere in the Bible does it discuss this kind of discipline, and the
hospital emergency rooms are full of children with broken bones,
dislocated shoulders, and ashamed parents.
. If you spank, do so only to the buttocks, and only use one or two
swats.
. If you spank, do it only as a last resort for the major infractions.
. Never, ever spank for the little follies a child engages in, the
mistakes s/he makes, the errors in judgment s/he confesses, and/or the
accidents that happen in the course of being a child. . A broken vase is
no reason to spank your toddler. . Instead, it may be a good time to
reevaluate your decorating sense around a small child.
. If you spank, do not spank with your hand. . Instead, use a small
instrument such as a small wooden spoon. . You do not need a big
instrument of punishment to get the point across.
. If you spank, you are the one who is to perform this task. . Do not
delegate it to a friend, relative, church member, etc. . In the same vein,
if you do not spank, do not allow a friend, relative, or church member to
do so when the child is in her/his care. . You are the parent, the buck
stops with you.
. Never, ever spank a child who suffers from attention
deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). . A spanking has a totally
different effect on her/him than it would on a child who does not suffer
from this illness.
. Never, ever spank a child who has been physically/sexually abused. .
The potential for (psychological) harm far outweighs the benefit of
deterring an inappropriate behavior in this way.
. If you spank, be consistent. . If little Tom knows that his chances
of getting a spanking for deliberately spilling the soup on his mother at
home are great, but in a restaurant are non-existent, he will begin
playing the odds. . Either be consistent, or find alternate methods of
discipline that you are more likely to use inside the home and out.
. If you spank, recognize that it is not a cure-all. . The actual
discipline is affected in the aftermath of a spanking, and prior to its
occurrence, when the child is brought to the understanding of the
wrongdoing. . The actual infliction of physical pain is a reminder of the
lesson learned, not the lesson in itself.
. "Wars, And Rumors of Wars"
. Many a parent is cowered into non-spanking submission, not because
they decide their child would not benefit from this form of discipline, or
because they realize that while God allows for corporal punishment, they
have been able to achieve the same effect with a stern look, a serious
warning, or other means. . No! . Instead they have fallen victim to the
"old wives' tales" concerning spankings, that crop up now and again in the
form of official-looking studies and documents. . Here are some myths
spanking opponents offer, and some efforts that were made to debunk them.
. Spanking leads to spousal abuse. . Not so according to John
Rosemond, Ph.D. . In his book To Spank or Not To Spank: A Parents'
Handbook, he states that while some of those who were abused as a child
may in turn abuse their spouses, the data did not suggest that the same
could be said for those who were spanked.
. Spanking causes depression and a lowered mental capacity. . Not so
according to Dr. . Diana Baumrind of the University of California, as
quoted in The New York Times. . In an address to the American
Psychological Association in San Francisco, she cautioned against mixing
in the case studies dealing with children who were spanked and those who
were physically abused. . Similarly, Dr. . Robert Larzelere of the
University of Nebraska Medical Center stated that a review of 38 studies
that dealt with children who were spanked (not abused!) prior to reaching
the age of 7 evidenced no harmful effects.
. Spanking causes/encourages hitting of others. . A favorite amongst
anti-spanking advocates, yet nothing but a fallacy according to
researchers at the Center for Family Research at Iowa State University. .
They found that "childhood aggressiveness has been more closely linked to
maternal permissiveness and negative criticism than to even abusive
physical discipline." (Olweus, Dan. . "Familial and Temperamental
Determinants of Aggressive Behavior in Adolescent Boys: A Causal
Analysis." Developmental Psychology. . 1980; 16:644-660.)
. Spanking is a form of violence.. Not according to the Bible
(Proverbs 3:11) or Webster's Ninth New Collegiate Dictionary. . 1987; p. .
1316. . Massachusetts: Merriam-Webster, Inc. . In it, violence is defined
as the "exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse", which does
not have a place in a Christian household, and most certainly is not the
object of a spanking.
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